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For some people talking dirty happens very naturally. But for the rest of us just the thought of talking dirty makes us feel embarrassed.
Which is why it’s such a meaningful hurdle for some people to overcome. It shows your partners that despite the fact it’s not something you feel comfortable with, you will do it because you know how much it satisfies them. And that’s very important to the long term success of any relationship.
Think of what happens if your partner wants dirty talk and you don’t give it to them…
Eventually they’re going to get bored. Sure they might say it doesn’t bother them, but deep down inside you know they crave something that you can’t give them.
Now I’m not saying they would ever cheat, but I am saying it’s very unfortunate in life when we aren’t able to do the fun things we want to.
Let’s use going to the movies for example. If one person LOVES going to the movies and the other doesn’t, eventually there will be a divide (and that WILL come up in future arguments). Let’s say it’s you who doesn’t like going to the movies. Well, every time your partner goes, unless you have a deep understanding with one another, there’s a good chance they wished you would join them once in awhile.
So let’s say you do join them one time, how do you think they will feel? AWESOME probably! They will appreciate you going with them they will want to do something special with you.
Ok let’s bring it back to dirty talk. If your partner always tries to get you to talk dirty and you never do because you don’t know what to say, try taking a little time to educate yourself with some tips (there are tons on this site) THEN try talking dirty back to them, watch them light up! What’s probably going to happen is your heart will beat like it’s coming out of your chest, your palms will sweat, you’ll think you’re the worst dirty talker EVER, but NONE of that matters. You will have done something for them that no one else ever has. Shown that they are important enough to you to make a change.
Think about that.
There is far more to talking dirty than just saying a few words to turn each other on…
It’s about showing someone you feel comfortable enough with them you accept being vulnerable with them. And that’s a special gift to give someone.
Remember what it was like the first time you got fully naked in front of someone? It’s a crazy feeling! It’s nerve-wracking, it’s exciting. It’s terrifyingly-AWESOME. Well for some people dirty talk is almost like you’re un-dressing your innermost thoughts and fears then waiting for them to respond. Which is why you should never take the fact someone is talking dirty to you lightly. You could laugh at your partner and cripple them emotionally at the blink of an eye …making them never want to do it again ever.
So at the core, being able to talk dirty with someone means that you trust them. And learning how to talk dirty because you want to satisfy them shows that you want to change to make your partner happier, and that’s the best gift of all!
To get that confidence rocking check out How To Sound Sexy ANYWHERE.
Enjoy! And thanks for reading,