If you are in a serious relationship, at some point you will likely try and decide when to say I love you for the first time.
For a lot of people this is a heart-pumping experience that has a chance to be a joining of two souls on a higher level!
…OR
A forever embarrassing situation that could be avoided by never exposing your true feelings for someone just because of your fear of rejection and embarrassment.
What a pickle!
Lucky for you I have a super awesome technique that will help you figure out the right time to say those powerful words…
The I LOVE YOU test.
If you really want to find out where your partner stands before you commit to saying I love you for the first time, try saying this “I think I’m falling in love with you”.
Then you ask him/her if they are surprised OR how they feel about you. That way you are deflecting yes or no rejection by watering down the intensity of those words. This way you are not setting yourself up for a potential let down.
If they don’t respond, you don’t sound like you are crazy in love with them, they just at this point know you are getting to that level.
IF they say “I think I’m falling in love with you too” Bingo!
Now you know at some point in the near future you will be ready to drop a romantic I Love You knowing you will get one in response.
What to do if he/she doesn’t say I love you back.
There is a chance if you say I love you and don’t get one in response, you will probably be a little embarrassed, but that is just your pride. Your partner will most likely be flattered and NOT care or think any less of you.
If months go by and your partner doesn’t mention anything or say I Love You, THEN something might be wrong… in which case you should talk about it confidently and state what your goals are in the relationship.
Hopefully that gives you some help on when to say I love you for the first time!
Evan
