You’re getting hot and heavy with your lover …the clothes are coming off, your blood is starting to boil, the situation is becoming excitingly intense.
You want to crank things up a notch and take things to the next level, so you decide to whisper a little something sexy into your partner’s ear.
As you pull back you see a look of panic on your partners face.
You can feel the blood rushing from your body as well as theirs, and what initially seemed to be like a magnetic attraction has now reversed and suddenly there is ZERO chemistry in the room.
That is what can happen when people don’t know how to talk dirty.
You see it all the time in movies and TV shows, and that’s because it happens all the time.
Unless you can read minds or know EXACTLY what your partner wants to hear, let’s face it, you will never know the perfect thing to say all the time. And talking dirty frequently does include a bit of risk and vulnerability.
But lucky for you, you landed here reading this! And I’m going to give you some crucial tips that might save you from some future embarrassment and crank up the heat in your relationship(s)!
Let me get right to the point:
1. Start off small with your dirty talk. Mmmm’s and ahhhh’s are ok too.
2. Ask questions instead of doing all the talking.
3. Keep in simple.
4. Remember sometimes you can say more by saying less. Don’t overdo it.
The BIGGEST mistake you can make, is too much too soon.
I see people ALL the time going online looking for dirty talk examples (without learning how to talk dirty). They memorize a bunch of sexy lines. Then, when they are in the heat of the moment, either:
a – They forget the lines they memorized and their mind goes blank. They panic, freeze up, and get really nervous/embarrassed.
b – Their partner loves it and wants MORE. And because they only memorized the lines, now they have no idea what else to say.
The best thing you can do is discover what your partner wants to hear, and start off small while building up your dirty talk skill. Start with some simple well-timed moans or ohhhs and ahhhs. I know that might sound too easy, but it’s incredibly effective. Remember what the goal of dirty talk is; to show your partner how satisfied they are making you. You don’t need to have crazy in-depth dialogue to achieve this.
The next important step is to learn how to ask sexy questions. If your partner is the one who likes dirty talk, you can immediately assume they have an active imagination. And that makes things easy for you.
The best way to take advantage of someone with an imagination, is to ask them questions!
Here’s a quick demo of a conversation where you can see how some simple questions can really control a dirty conversation:
“What is your favorite position?”
“Because then I can see your beautiful face, and it goes in deep”
“Where would be your sexiest place to do it?”
“Hmmm maybe at the beach? Or somewhere in public. What about you?”
“Anywhere with you What would you do to me there?”
If you always have a question prepared, you will always be good at dirty talk.
Amazing naughty talk does not have to be well researched. You want it to sound natural and honest. The easiest way to achieve that is by keeping things simple.
Don’t say anything that doesn’t sound like YOU. If you all of the sudden become somebody else with your words, you will confuse your partner. Especially if you’ve been dating a long time.
Stick to the basics. Stay in your comfort zone. Just because something worked in a movie or for a friend doesn’t mean it will work for you.
Another thing people often do, is when they get nervous they talk MORE. And when you go on and on about something, it becomes boring quick.
Remember that sometimes the less you say, the more meaning it has. If you say “Save some energy for later, you’re going to need it” and don’t say anything else. They won’t know what hit them!
Be wary of your words. Don’t talk too much.
You don’t become an expert overnight. It takes practice and research. And if you want to become amazing at dirty talk and learn how to blow your partners mind, learn how to talk dirty the right way.
As always thanks for reading, and stay sexy!